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She's making excuses because he's soft. The only real power a man has, if he isn't abusive, is the enforcement of his standards and his boundaries... and walking away if they're not met. To have won this exchange and what he wanted, when she said "What?? No!" he should've ignored her question about timing. He should've said "I need dedication, not somebody that wants the benefits of two different men." and left. If she chases, he has sway. If she doesn't chase, at least it was his decision and she can't break his heart further. Abiding by people's incomplete care for you just ensures more of that in the future. Real life lesson for the twenty somethings, here. From a forty something. That he's been this abiding sends the message that he has to be. Which makes him look weak, and that isn't attractive. You also can't explain yourself into being more attractive. Trying to logic someone into making a big change rarely if ever works. It's a spur of the moment thing and emotions make the choice.
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