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Wanted to chime in and say its kinda both? I think the big key here is communication. I think it's reasonable for someone to hope for sexual favors to be returned by a partner (hope, not expect. Big difference). But as was said, you are in no way entitled to it. You and your partner need to have conversations to help one another understand the other's needs and wants. In this case, if you're a woman who would feel a bit put out by giving but not receiving, you have to let your partner know. Holly is kinda doing that, but very late. On the flipside, if Doug has hangups about certain sex acts, that needs to be communicated. Again, expectations get set in this way and it's less likely someone feels unfulfilled. But everyone always needs to keep in mind that these things can shift, too. Maybe Doug is like "eh, it's not really my thing" but in the moment gets turned on by the thought of eating her out and decides to go for it. That's his prerogative to change his mind. There's nothing wrong with it, especially if you're inexperienced with sex. And the same goes for the reverse. "Yeah I'm down for it" can become "I'm having second thoughts."
Respect needs to be given by both parties to the other's autonomy but both need to at least voice themselves.
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